Sunday, January 29, 2017

29 January 2016


I feel like maybe I’m getting better at this wait and see game.  Like maybe I’m starting to see a glimmer of the patience learning that I think I’m supposed to be doing.  I’ve felt more at peace with the home buying process and am waiting to see what pans out.  I put off health goals that normally are made at the beginning of the year because I knew we were going on vacation. I sometimes make the mistake of making a long list of things I need to change or fix and then try to tackle them all at once.  I have been taking a different approach and I hope that it pays off.  This week I got myself off of caffeine and increased the meaningfulness of my daily Scripture study.  Those are the only two things I focused on and it was successful.  I also tried a sabbatical from Facebook this week. Facebook can be a wonderful thing, I enjoy being able to share our lives with others and be in contact with people I haven’t seen or otherwise wouldn’t see; however, it has also been the portal to have my feelings hurt.  That’s what happened last week (and it’s not the first time) so I figured while I’m focusing on self-improvement I could do without for a while and it’s also been a good experience.

We had Family Home Evening on Monday based on this month’s First Presidency message.  When we were done with our lesson we watched a new movie together.  Can I say that I really miss our family room and couches? It’s just not as comfortable on the floor in my bedroom!
The beehives were in charge of the mutual activity this week and we wrote cards to the sick and homebound in our ward.  We also played LDS Pictionary.  I feel like its near impossible to come up with an activity that all the girls will like, so I try not to take it personally when I get eye rolls!  Our home teachers came over on Wednesday night.  At some point Wednesday night I went out to the car to get Arlo’s lunch box (I think) and I managed to lock my keys in the car.  This is supposed to be impossible.  I leave the keys in my purse and never touch them (the car detects the fob and opens when I approach the car and it starts with a button push as long as the fob is detected).  I leave my purse in the car over night because it’s in the garage.  The doors are designed to detect the key in the car and refuse to lock.  Well, I must be super talented, because I went out later that evening and the car was locked with my keys inside.  I took a deep breath, smiled, and figured I wasn’t supposed to be going anywhere on Thursday morning.

Thursday morning I got up a little earlier to make sure I got the girls on the bus and then Arlo and I were homebound.  Toyota was supposed to have sent me a second key months ago and when I sent my mom down there to get it, they couldn’t find it.  So they paid to have a lock smith come out and open the car…at 4PM!  Arlo and I hung out, I worked at home and we had a very nice day.  Someone wanted to come see our house in the evening so the kids and I went into Tucson and stopped at Target, then went to Chipotle for dinner (so yummy!) and ended the evening with a trip to Boot Barn to see if they had any of Felicity’s jeans on sale.  My agent said “both buyers liked your home – the open floor plan and it shows very well.  However, the only issue the husband did not like the neighborhood too much although the wife didn’t mind it”.  Well, I can’t do anything about the neighborhood!  We’ll keep our fingers crossed, but I really am starting to buy into the idea that the right thing will happen at the right time.  So I’m not going to worry about it.
Everyone was back to school and work on Friday.  The kids went to stay with their dad and I had a Presidency meeting in the evening.  Saturday morning I got up and went to the Gilbert temple.  I arrived around 10 and was done at about 3, I managed to complete 50 sealings.  I had been holding onto them for quite some time (I think the last time I did sealings Jeff and I were at the temple for our anniversary...so yeah, its been awhile!).  I think I was waiting for an opportunity when I could take someone to help me, but that just hasn't happened and that stack just kept getting bigger.  It was a good experience.  
 My Sunday meetings were good and I worked on family history until it was time to pick up the kids.  

22 January 2017

We had a relatively mundane week.  The kids stayed with their dad on Monday and I went back to work…seems like it’s been a long time! 
I’ve been keeping a spreadsheet of all the available land and homes on land that fit what I am looking for.  Tuesday morning I went with the realtor to look at a couple houses that were on that list that I hadn’t seen yet.  One was trash and I knew right away I didn’t want it.  The second was a surprise and I’m finding myself thinking it over.  It’s a house on five acres that’s backed up to state trust land on two sides.  The owner is also selling an additional 5 acres on the other side.  So it would be ten  total acres.  He has a nice car port, sheds, landscaped the area right around the house and it has a porch wrapping ¾ of the way around the house.  The downside?  The house is a little too small.  My house is 2,010 square feet and the house that I picked out with the builder is 2,450 square feet (four bedrooms with a full family room).  This house is like 1,700 square feet.  It’s three bedrooms (and they’re smallish) and no family room.  The price is also on the high end of my budget.  The well is great and I would have 2 out of the 4 shares, we could shoot and hunt right out of our backyard.  It is, however, at the end of Kolb road off of Sahuarita, so it would put us in a different stake and school district.  I don’t want to leave Sahuarita and I don’t want to feel driven out of Sahuarita, but I’m also not convinced it wouldn’t be a good move for us and would allow us (me) a fresh start.

We had activity days and mutual on Tuesday as well.  The girls got to learn how to build a campfire and roasted marshmallows, they had a lot of fun.  We went to a soccer game at Sahuarita High School to cheer for one of our young women as our activity.  It was a lot of fun.

On Wednesday, I met my mom and her friend Sue for lunch to talk about land.  Sue is a land realtor and I was hoping she’d have some insight for me.  One of my biggest frustrations has been that I feel like I am having to do all the leg work in finding the available properties, scouting them out, and then asking for the details.  Turns out, because the commission is so low on land deals (especially because I’m not looking for a ¼ million dollar piece in the foothills) that no agent is going to do much more than mine is doing.  We talked about the property on Garrison Hills that I really liked.  Sue is who told me when she talked to the title company that it had 29 issues.  It’s still the only piece that I’ve felt any connection to and when I wanted her to elaborate on the issues, she said they were mostly easement issues, the mine being close, etc.  The take away was that all the land I’m looking at is going to have issues.  Her suggestion was that if I really liked this one, make an offer for what I want to pay for it, then I have 30 days to do the real digging.  Once I have made a serious offer and it’s accepted, the title company and other entities will actually do the work to get the real answers and get me a realistic view of what I’m getting into.  In that 30 days I can withdraw my offer or negotiate it.  That made me feel peace about it.

This weekend after cleaning and getting laundry done, the kids and I went out in my dad’s truck and looked at the remaining lots on the list that we hadn’t seen yet.   We spent a couple hours driving around the ranch areas west of Sahuarita and down dirt roads along Sahuarita road east of the freeway.  It felt good to say I’d seen it all…all the houses and all the land currently available.  It basically stands at two options, the smallish house on 10 acres on Kolb road, or the 7 acres on Garisson Hills in Sahuarita and I would build my own home.  I need to fast and pray about the decision, but my initial plan is to wait until my house has an offer on it, then make an offer on the Garrison Hills property, if they don’t accept my offer (which will be much less than they want for it) I’ll make an offer on the house and 10 acres.  So now it is just waiting to see what happens with my house and what is still available when I finally get an offer on my house.  See the patience thing!

We went to church on Sunday and I sat in for the young women’s president in ward council, then I substituted in Helen’s primary class, it went fairly well.  I went with our class presidents to the Bishop’s youth council after church.  It was a busy Sunday for my day of rest!  We went to my parent’s house after church and enjoyed dinner and visiting.     

Sunday, January 15, 2017

15 January 2017 Disneyland

 What a fun (and exhausting) week!  We spent our vacation at the Disneyland parks and in a rental house my mom picked out.  We walked to Disneyland Monday morning, with just a few sprinkles of rain.  We spent quite a bit of the morning in Tomorrowland, which is something I rarely do.  We rode the Finding Nemo Submarines, drove the cars in Autotopia (which I've never done), rode the Astro Orbitors, and Felicity, Arlo, and I rode Hyperspace Mountain with a fast pass.  Arlo had never been on a real coaster before, so I really took my chances when I signed him up for space moutain.  He was either going to love it or hate me.  "Mom, that was awesome!" was his declaration after getting off the ride, so a new coaster junkie was born.  We had lots of fun Disney treats and rode lots of rides.  It cleared up in the early afternoon and turned into a really nice day. 
We were at California Adventure on Tuesday and we were rained on most of the morning.  It was lame, but we made the best of it.  Felicity and I enjoyed our first ride on California Screamin', it was pretty cool.  Arlo cried because he wasn't big enough.  We rode lots of rides, saw the Broadway-quality production of Frozen, and stopped into the Animation Academy to learn how to draw Baymax.  We wrapped up the evening with the World of Color show before walking home.
Wednesday was a beautiful day and we had so much fun at Disneyland.  We rode some new rides, and one of the highlights was eating lunch at the Blue Bayou Restaurant under the Pirates of the Caribbean ride.  The food was marvelous.  We ate breakfast before heading to the park and then took in snacks so we only spent money on one meal in the park and then the kids had a daily budget for Disney snacks like churros and pretzels and Dole Whip.
Thursday it was rainy and cold all day.  The nice thing about the weather is the outside rides had very short waits if any waits at all.  So we rode Splash Mountain as many times as we liked.  We stopped for our traditional pineapple ice cream at the Tikki Room and Helen started to not feel well, so we went home and the other kids and I went back to the park to finish out the night.    We had a great time.
We drove home on Friday morning and it took quite awhile between a late breakfast and the rain, but we made it!  I took the kids' to their dad's for their weekend visit and I went home and unpacked and got the laundry started.  Saturday I went with my mom and returned the rental car and had lunch.  When we were done I went looking at potential properties.  In the evening I drove into Tucson for a girl's night.  We had so much fun, I sure do appreciate my friends!
I haven't felt great today.  Just sort of blah and lethargic and I think ready to get life back in order and rolling in the right direction again.
In Retrospect:  
So, would I go in January again?  I don't know.  The rain was hard.  Not only is being wet and cold not fun, but it meant that rides seemed to go down more frequently.  Even when it wasn't actively raining the puddles meant wet shoes, pant legs, and seats.  Disneyland had no parades or fireworks while we were there and some of our favorite attractions were down because it's their "slow season".  Lines and wait times for rides (other than the outside ones where you get wet) were not that much shorter, we still used fast passes for the big rides with long waits.  Disney pairs down the entertainment and their staffing to compensate, so while there are physically less people in the park, it doesn't make it feel much different than going in the middle of the summer.  You noticed the reduced crowds in trying to get around the park, the bathrooms, and waits for food and the shops...all of that was easier.  The shorter park hours meant we got more sleep and were less grouchy and I didn't make my kids stay up until 12 every night.  We did get to do a lot of things we hadn't done before.  I suggest having a meal in the Golden Horseshoe...we went for a late lunch at 3:30 and enjoyed a show while we ate.  I loved the Blue Bayou, but it would be a good idea for a couple, not a family.  It was very expensive and my kids still only wanted mac and cheese and didn't appreciate the finer points of eating at a fancy restaurant.

08 January 2017

What the heck happened this week?  Monday was my last official day off for the holidays.  I did some cleaning, some shopping, some crafting, and then in the evening I finally took the plunge and went out to dinner by myself.  I've been craving shrimp and since my eating has been on hiatus (and will be until after our family vacation) I treated myself to Red Lobster.  This is one of the things that I haven't been able to do alone since becoming single.  I think the waiter felt more awkward about it than I did.  I took the book He's Just Not That Into You and read and enjoyed dinner.  The book, as a side note, was awesome.  It was blunt, but well needed.  I think I'm the queen of spending time on relationships where the person is just not that crazy about me, but I'm good company and I offer a lot of ego boost so they tend to go on far longer than they should.

I made the kids matching shirts for our upcoming trip to Disneyland.  I felt foolish having to buy some basic stuff to make them since almost all of my sewing and craft things are in storage.  Believe me, I've questioned why I packed up my house and am living this weird 1/2 life where most of my stuff is in storage and I don't have a family room anymore and we've had NO interest in the house.  Its frustrating, but I know selling is the right choice, so we'll live.  Anyway, I made matching shirts and I crocheted the kids hats to keep them warm.  I really love how they turned out.
 Tuesday I ended up spending at home running errands and getting things inline for our vacation.  Wednesday I took Arlo for his 5 year well-check.  He is in the 90th percentile for height and is also a little above average for weight.   I was slightly embarrassed that when he got undressed for his exam he was wearing his sister's underwear.  His pediatrician said that at least he was wearing underwear, so I shouldn't worry too much!  For being such a talkative kid, he sure refused to talk to her, he made me do most of the talking.  He was not happy with me for requesting a flu shot, but he forgave me pretty quickly when we stopped for chocolate frosties at Wendy's when we were done. 
I  picked up the girls when we were done and we headed home.  Arlo was sick that evening with stomach a ache and had one several evenings after too.  The sisters went to visit Nana and Papa and got to go shooting with their new guns.  I had to stay home with Arlo, so basically my first week back to work was shot because I ended up not going in all week.  Oh, well!
 Friday the house was being shown, so we went to Tucson and saw "Moana" and then had Red Robin for lunch.  It was fun.
Saturday we went and picked up our rental van for our trip and ran some last minute errands and packed for our trip.  We left in the morning on Sunday and had a pretty uneventful drive to Anaheim.  The kids were pretty good in the car and we arrived about 5 pm.  We got unpacked and the kids wanted to swim in the heated pool, so we did that.  After baths and PJs we watched the Disneyland fireworks from our back porch.

Sunday, January 1, 2017

01 January 2017


Happy New Year!  Welcome 2017!  I had an amazing week.  My heart is full and I will undoubtedly fill pages in my journal over the next few days with all the amazing things I saw and felt and learned and did.  As part of our parenting plan, the kids spend Christmas morning through New Years with their dad.  As it turns out, I always have this week off from work as well.  This year I felt inspired to take a road trip by myself and do some good while the kids were gone.
Monday I cleaned the house and did all the laundry and put away all the new Christmas goodies.  It took pretty much all day to put the house back in "show-ready" order.  In the evening I went to the theater to see Rogue One and was pleasantly surprised to see the Bosse family there and Rebekah and Brianne joined me on the front row!  It was really good in my opinion, they did a really good job of making it congruent with the older movies which made it much more enjoyable...they also used the wonders of CGI to bring back characters just as they were 40 years ago!  I threw some things in a backpack when I got home and went to bed with intentions of leaving early.
In my quest to serve in every temple in the United States I thought I could get the most for my time if I headed north and went up I-15 and just stopped and did work in each temple I came to.  I ended up leaving around 6am, which was later than I had hoped, but I really embraced the idea of going with the flow and seeing where I ended up.  I made no plans, made no hotel reservations.  I left with a list of the temples in my path, their addresses, and their schedules and I set out on my adventure.  You have a lot of pondering (and singing) time when you drive for more than 12 hours alone!  There was snow in Flagstaff, and from there on, and the reservation was beautiful to drive through.  I stopped when I needed to stop and I just did my thing.
First on my list was Manti.  The temple was incredible.  It was completed in 1877 and stands as a testament to the faith of the early saints.  The craftsmanship of poor outcasts working with rudimentary tools and yet 140 years later this temple of the Lord is still as majestic and incredible.  I got to go up and down some very old staircases where the hand rails were just lower than you'd expect them to be and the steps were not a standard depth, you could feel they were old.  One of the great things about the Manti temple is you get to progress through the rooms of the temple, so you get to see a lot of it.  I remember noting a beautiful white peacock in one of the murals (because Felicity loves peacocks) and its the first temple I've been in where we were seated on long wooden benches instead of chairs.  It is definitely one of my new favorites!  Man was it cold outside when I got done!  I drove to Payson, UT and got a nice little hotel room for the night.
Wednesday I got up early and was at the Payson temple before the sun came up.  I could tell pretty quickly that it is a sister temple to the Gilbert temple here in Arizona.  It was basically the same layout, but had an apple blossom motif.  When I was done I went to the Provo City Center temple.  This temple was constructed when the tabernacle that was there was lost in a fire.  They kept the edifice and built a temple from the ashes so to speak.  It was so beautiful.  It was, however, busy since Provo was closed.  I loved that the murals in the ordinance room went right up onto the ceiling too and we got to go up a tight spiral staircase moving from one room to another.  It was lovely.  When I was done there I drove to Mount Timpanogos.  It had great art glass in all the interior and exterior windows that were iridescent and glimmered in the sun.  You could tell that it was constructed in the mid 90s from the decor.
I drove to Salt Lake City when I was done, to see the lights at temple square.  They did not disappoint!  It was very cold and there were a lot of people there, but it was truly an amazing experience and I'm glad I took the time to go.  My lovely friend Holly, who incidentally was the sister missionary who taught me before my baptism, offered to have me stay with her and her family.  Normally I wouldn't want to impose, but felt strongly that it was a good idea, it also meant that I could spend another night and see more temples because I wasn't spending that budget on a hotel for the night!  We had a great chat, it felt like we picked right back up where we left off 13 years ago!
In the morning I went to the Draper temple and then Oquirrh Mountain temple.  I drove further north and was able to attend the Bountiful temple in the evening.  It was beautiful too.  It is laid out very similarly to Mount Timpanogos, but the interior design is very different.  I liked the chapel, its the first one I've been in with vaulted ceilings.  When I was done I drove to Ogden and got a hotel for the night.  Let me tell you, it was a pretty crappy place!  I just told myself it was all part of the adventure (and slept with my gun by the bed)!  In the morning I went to the Ogden temple.  One of the best parts about the temple interiors are the original works of art.  They are decorated with many paintings that I would consider standard works for the church, but then the temples have original works too.  Not only murals in ordinance rooms, but paintings.  I saw contemporary saints picking apples, or pioneer women holding children. My favorite was a life-size painting of the Savior holding two little Lamanite girls at his side.  This one was in the Ogden temple and I stopped and looked at it for quite awhile.  After Ogden I was then onto my last stop, Brigham City.  This is another new favorite.  There was so much natural light in all of the rooms.  The dressing room had the largest round windows with glass art flowers.  There was a beautiful mural in the ordinance room, it was all birds, which was different.  Geese and ducks and all manner of other birds.  One of the workers (who found out about my adventure) pointed out that it was an inspiration from the late President Packer who loved birds and painted and sculpted birds.  It made it that much more special to me.
I got dinner and then drove back to Holly's to spend the night before heading home.  I left Saturday morning and had lots of time to think and ponder on the many things I learned, insights I had gained, and new resolutions I have made for myself.  When all was said and done, I performed 13 initiatories and 9 endowment sessions and spent about 30 hours in the temple.  It was such a spiritual and enlightening experience.  I can't think of a better way I could have spent my week alone.  My drive home was uneventful.  I did stop to take some really pretty pictures of Glenn Canyon.  My car performed perfectly,  I ended up logging 1,841 miles and averaged 58 miles per gallon, so it was less than $80 in gas.
My meetings went well today.  I substituted in Primary for second hour and enjoyed a really spiritual lesson in young womens.  I have been writing and reading today and have been going through 2016s photos.  It was a hard year, but I think the work I did in the last week will propel me into 2017 with a renewed sense of direction and hope.  It's going to be great!
Here is the updated list of the temples in the US and the ones I completed.  I have a lot of work left to do!